Just divorced? throw a divorce party
July 14, 2008 9:35 pm Other Divorce News
Divorce parties have been thrown all over America, and it seems that the UK are following suit, when you have just spend 16 months going through a hellish divorce you need to let your hair down, what better way than to get your friends together and throw a party.
Party organisers say that ‘freedom celebrations’ have become increasingly popular, not only are they a place where women can have fun but there are possibilities of meeting a new partner too. And why not we say.
We love the idea of Divorce parties in the Diva office, in-fact I only went to one last week, all other significant life moments have a coming together of people; birth, marriage and even death, so why not a divorce? Women can feel totally alone after a divorce, throwing a party is a way of erecting a sign to to yourself and your friends to say “its over, my marriage is behind me and now its time to move.
There are companies that produce all types of novelty gifts, like ‘Happy Divorce’ chocolate bars, Happy Divorce cards and cakes, coffins to put your wedding ring in, some do seem a little harsh as not every divorce is filled with hatred, some couples just decide the love has gone and decide to move on, there are now ‘compassionate divorce parties’ where a couple celebrate their parting together.
A friend of mine in New York told me the reason that she couldn’t wait for her divorce party was she had felt in limbo for a year waiting to file for divorce, in New York the concept of “irreconcilable differences” doesn’t exist, so unless you can prove adultery, abandonment or cruel and inhumane treatment you must wait a year after separation.
She told me she felt trapped, she couldn’t prove her husband’s adultery so she had to stay in the emotional turmoil, she told me that although most of her friends came to her party and supported her, she was shocked at some of her replies to her invites.
Have you or are you planning a divorce party? what company did you use or did you do it yourself? let us know your divorce party experience.
July 14th, 2008 at 11:11 pm
There are no rituals, ceremonies or customs ending a marriage, as there are mourning the death of a loved one. However, many people are looking for a way to find closure, to mourn the end of their marriage.There are people who throw divorce parties, mail out or email notices of their divorce. Interesting concepts too. The thing to remember is, you don’t want to show anger, bitterness or remorse. You certainly don’t want to offend your friends, make them feel uncomfortable or create a mockery of yourself. Use this as an opportunity for closure and healing.
My goal is to help people think “smart” about their divorce while moving forward with focus, help and confidence. For more information about The Smart Divorce please visit http://www.thesmartdivorce.com or my blog at http://blog.thesmartdivorce.com
Deborah Moskovitch
Divorce consultant
Author of The Smart Divorce
June 5th, 2009 at 3:25 am
It’s been two long hellish years of going through this divorce and I can’t wait to celebrate! My friends have been so supportive through this whole process, this party will also be a way to thank my support team.