Are you just craving space, or do you really want a divorce?

It may seem pretty strange to be married and live in separate houses? Well my opinion is that it sounds fantastic, I get the love and support of a great relationship, excitement and also my own space couldn’t personally ask for more, and when I think of my relationship with my ex husband I’m sure we would have lasted a lot longer in fact could still be together today.

Couples, who do not marry straight away date at the beginning, so generally don’t live together, remember back how exciting the first year was with you partners, and imagine that feeling of missing them forever.

OK, it’s not for everyone, some people crave living with their partner, and don’t like sleeping alone at all, I guess its horses for courses, but with society ever changing and people becoming more excepting of the way people live their lives if it works for both of you then why not?

Friends of Jane in the office was telling me of friends of hers that live in America they have been together for 8 years, they don’t live together and only see each other at weekends and vacations, But they are as in love now as they were 8 years ago, in fact Jane said when you see them both together it’s a wonder you don’t see love hearts flying across the room, a little much for some but they are completely happy with their relationship and are looking to get married and still intend to live apart. The couple are not looking to have children.

I can’t see why the arrangement wouldn’t work even if they did decide to start a family, lots of children live in a broken home, weekends with one parent and weeks with the other, but normally this is not out of choice, if it was a case of children spending time with both loving parents that are also loving to each other, no other partners, spending quality time with each parent and then quality time with both together, would that be such a bad deal?

There could be lots of reasons why couples live apart, could be that you have children, have been through a very nasty divorce and want to make completely sure with your new partner that it will not end in divorce again and drag you children through the trauma of another divorce, I guess you will never know if you will end in another divorce but it’s worth doing more ground work this time, once bitten, twice shy. You have a lot more experience to bring to this relationship so is very wise to use it.

A friend of mine studied relationships for several years, her thoughts are more profound than mine, she says, not long ago, marriage was the only acceptable social institution for couple, generally people got married young, and married only once, times have changed not everyone gets married who live together, those who do decide to walk down the aisle generally do it a lot later in life and divorce is much more common.

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