When you bring a child into the world, you wish for them to live in a world of love not hate, the last thing on your mind would be to shatter your own dreams and bring your child up in a deceitful world, but many parents who are divorced are doing just that.

This is what a lot of parents do when they make the child think that loving their other parent is a crime against the first parent.

If you look at the divorce order, it can say that a custodial parent has to give the other parent access on certain days. The court order cannot stop that parent making the child feel that going to their other parent is abandonment. The court cannot stop a parent looking deflated or even angry if the child says that the time spent at the other parent was enjoyable.

What’s unfortunate is that the messages in the court order can tell the child that if they love one parent they betray the other, of course the child is put in the position of having to lie about their feelings to each parent after or even during the divorce. For children in divorced families they need to grow up stable as possible and feel that the love is legitimate and enjoy both parents.

Of course, divorce is never easy and one involving children is probably the most difficult, but you must never put you personal feelings before you childs, for selfish reasons, or to just get back at your partner for cheating on you, the child must always come before these feelings and allow the child to love equally.

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Source: thetimesza

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