http://www.divorcediva.co.uk/20100225/how-to-divorce-and-survive-with-knitting/ Divorce Diva, read the latest news on divorce Mon, 30 Aug 2010 14:37:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.divorcediva.co.uk/20100225/how-to-divorce-and-survive-with-knitting/comment-page-1/#comment-349 Westcarleton Wed, 30 Jun 2010 12:54:15 +0000 http://www.divorcediva.co.uk/?p=702#comment-349 My husband of 26 years left 7 months ago. In the year before he left I had been knitting more and more. The only thing we seemed to do together anymore was watch television and I found I felt it was such a time waster yet I wanted to be with him so I compromised by knitting. I think in the end it bothered him, my knitting, however I found it very soothing and when he finally did go, well, knitting kind of took over. I sometimes wonder if that is a good thing or not but I am self employed working from home and somehow I managed to keep working despite the fact that I wanted to curl into a ball on the bed and give up. I`ve suffered from depression since my teens and I was in a pretty bad state for a few months but knitting kept my focus elsewhere and seemed to calm my mind. I am a worrier by nature and knitting kept my mind off the big picture and kept me company on many a sleepless night. It kept my attention in a way that reading could not and I loved my finished projects. I had accomplished something even if it was just making a pair of socks. It kept me from angry raging and pointless wallowing. The more complicated the pattern the better. I started knitting lace, complicated sock patterns and multi-piece toys. I joined 2 knitting groups and made new friends. It got me out of the house, and since I live alone in the country and work alone that was important. Knitting saved me and continues to save me. I don`t know where I would be without it. My husband of 26 years left 7 months ago. In the year before he left I had been knitting more and more. The only thing we seemed to do together anymore was watch television and I found I felt it was such a time waster yet I wanted to be with him so I compromised by knitting. I think in the end it bothered him, my knitting, however I found it very soothing and when he finally did go, well, knitting kind of took over. I sometimes wonder if that is a good thing or not but I am self employed working from home and somehow I managed to keep working despite the fact that I wanted to curl into a ball on the bed and give up. I`ve suffered from depression since my teens and I was in a pretty bad state for a few months but knitting kept my focus elsewhere and seemed to calm my mind. I am a worrier by nature and knitting kept my mind off the big picture and kept me company on many a sleepless night. It kept my attention in a way that reading could not and I loved my finished projects. I had accomplished something even if it was just making a pair of socks. It kept me from angry raging and pointless wallowing. The more complicated the pattern the better. I started knitting lace, complicated sock patterns and multi-piece toys. I joined 2 knitting groups and made new friends. It got me out of the house, and since I live alone in the country and work alone that was important. Knitting saved me and continues to save me. I don`t know where I would be without it.

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